I would like to take this opportunity to thank Abilities and Margaret Reed for the success that my son has today. Here is our story.
Kade is my second child so naturally we did everything a little earlier than the books suggested. At 9 months old we started trying table food. I say “try” because it was never really successful. Family and friends would say “leave him he will eat what he wants”. From about 10 months to 18 months our menu consisted of chicken nuggets, fries, tator tots, cucumbers and yogurt. EVERYDAY of his life! I remember making a plate of whatever I had cooked for the family and giving it to him in his high chair. I didn’t care if he played with it or fed himself at this point. I would force him to just take a bite and tell him “you will like it”. That resulted in him crying, me crying and him shutting down. He wouldn’t eat anything after. Not even his “go to” foods. Our life revolved around making sure we had one of the 5 foods above always for him. I knew that it wasn’t healthy. I let him continue with baby food just to get some veggies in. At his 18 month check up I told the pediatrician everything. Thankfully she referred us to Abilities just for a consult. I was thankful just for that at this point. I remember the first day we meet our Feeding Angel Margaret Reed. I was nervous what would she say, where did we go wrong, how did I break my child. In October of 2013 at 18 months old Kade started therapy. It was not fun. He cried, screamed, kicked and fought and all he had to do at the beginning was a little vibrating tool called a z-vibe. Slowly he progressed to touching new foods and textures, then slowly licking new foods. This took at least a year to accomplish and we weren’t even eating anything yet. At the beginning we went twice a week for 45 minute sessions. I can remember the day he went back and came out to tell me he ate a cooked CARROT. I wanted to scream at the top of my lungs so everyone could hear this accomplishment. I know it’s silly but you have no idea how proud I was of my baby boy. Slowly but surely he would try new things and sometimes he would fight but Margaret knew just how to handle it, where I would get frustrated and want to give in. She taught me techniques and ways to deal with Kade and his eating. She truly is amazing! After Christmas of 2015 I noticed Kade was more willing to try something new at home. So we went with it. He was eating little things at home but even more new things with Margaret. After the longest 2 ½ years of our lives we graduated. I couldn’t believe it! Finally!!! My baby was eating everything without a fight. And he loved it. He would say “mommy it taste so good”, music to my ears. We still struggle occasionally but we have come so far and learned so many things to help us deal with those situations. To parents dealing with picky eaters or feeding issues. I feel your pain. I understand the frustration and failure you feel. I was there. I felt like a failure as a mother. I learned it was way more than I could fix. But thankfully there’s a place that knows exactly what to do with the best therapist around. I am so thankful that we found Abilities and will forever be grateful to them. Don’t give up. It’s a slow process but so worth the end result!